Well, I know it sounds a little odd, but consider a conversation I had Sunday after church with a visiting couple. They had visited another bible-believing church near their home, but found that the church was against ‘evangelism’…just for ‘friendship evangelism’. I really didn’t know that idea was still around, but it is very scary talking to others about our faith. We don’t want to offend, but we do want to be faithful to tell them what we care about…and we want to be faithful to the Lord’s directive to ‘go…’.
I’ve been in both ditches. I have taught and done street evangelism…and…I have taught and done ‘friendship’ evangelism. The truth is that there is another option. Most of problems arise from TRYING to CONVERT people. At some level or another we all must recognize some role of freedom and will in the matter. Regardless of your extreme views of Calvinism or Arminianism…it is still an individual thing for the person to come to faith in Christ and His work for his eternal destiny.
A phrase we started using a few years ago is ‘we’re concerned about contacts not converts’. Of course, we all hope people will embrace Christ; but really, it’s really only our role to clearly and graciously share the message. Focusing on converting others invites us toward a hard-sales approach. Focus on friendship invites us to (often) never get around to the subject.
Why not learn a clear way to explain your own faith and just explain it?— truly, indeed, aren’t the results God’s business and the individual’s concern? Can’t we share our heart while respecting their autonomy? This includes NOT SHARING if they don’t want to hear it (of course)!
I’ve notice in Uganda was see thousands each summer put their faith in Christ. Those who go seem to think it is about how ‘open the people are’–maybe. All I know, is that we can’t compare America to Uganda until we do in America what we do in Uganda.
Make sense?
Fred Lybrand
P.S. My friend Larry Moyer has some excellent material with this line of thinking at www.evantell.org